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Listening-Dialogue

Using the best within us to create and grow something together 

 Meet, discuss a subject, listen to each other and oneself – that is totally simple, and at the same time an art.

 

What are Listening-Dialogues good for?

You want /wish to
-    Develop the next steps of your work with a colleague
-    or organize a task you share
-    or find solutions for a pending project with your partner
-    or discover possibilities to distribute working hours
-    or explore a current political issue with a friend
-    or work with her or him on questions you share
-    or pursue something which occupies you both
-    or have just a conversation together about a subject you have chosen at random, inspired i.e. by a journal or a book.

This is what we developed Listening-Dialogues for, to follow up on such joint plans, tasks or questions, without pressure and in spite of this or especially because of this effectively. It is about cooperation and working together.
In case the subjects one wishes to talk about are linked to the relation between the partners in dialogue, there are more suitable forms to discuss these (i.e. Dialogues according to Michael Lukas Moeller).

 

How do Listening-Dialogues work?

You are not being interrupted while you speak.
You can pause while speaking to think.
You can listen without at the same time having to wait for the person speaking to pause, so you can voice your own thoughts.
You can concentrate on listening, without at the same time having to think about whar you are going to say, because this is what the times of silence are there for.
There are times of silence in which you can listen to what came up inside of you while you where voicing your thoughts.

The Listening-Dialogue does not need moderation.
What you need for a successful carrying out is described below:

 

What does one need for a Listening-Dialogue?

- A quite place, undisturbed space.

- A bit of optimism that together something can develop which surpasses what is available to the individual at present.

- Two sandglasses (30 Seconds and 15 Minutes) or a timer.

- Two chairs placed facing each other.

- A small table or a place to put the sandglasses or the timer.

- A theme to start the dialogue with.
- Instructions for the Listening-Dialogue. You will find these here (to print in A 4). If needed, you can read these right before you start the dialogue. pdf

- The 'Listening Card' to print in A 4. The small card is created by cutting it out and folding it. This card describes the basic attitude of the listener and the speaker. If needed, you can put this in front of you during the dialogue. The page “listen” or “speak” is facing up as actually needed. pdf

 The sandglasses:
- Sandglass or timer (30 Seconds) to initiate the change of roles and the times of silence to resonate.
- Sandglass or timer (15 Minutes) for the time of the dialogue with the option to extend for another 15 minutes.

Sandglasses of some size work better than timer. They are easier to handle, you cannot do anything wrong and they do not distract.
The ones most suitable you can purchase here: a 30 second sandglass and a 15 minutes sandglass

You can use a smartphone-app as a timer also, though this is not ideal, as they are visually restless and need more attention to be handled. The timer should be as simple as possible. We tried several and recommend these:

Beautiful Timer pro (android)
Ok Timer (Android)
More Timers (IOS)

 

What is different about the Listening-Dialogue?
What is different, if one creates a large space for listening (for the other and oneself) within a dialogue?  What are your experiences?
Please, share these with us and write to: [reply form]

 

 All materials on three PDFs pdf download Zuhör-Dialog

 

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